define your personal values. This one scares me. I feel like I have no real values.
What do I stand for? I don't know.....and then how can anyone else. I feel like I'm muddling through life with no real purpose..
So I cheated a bit...I found a website that listed out 374 values and printed it off! Went through and highlighted the ones that spoke to me and crossed off ones that didn't (and had a lot just sitting there not highlighted and not crossed off!). I got my list to 33. Still too many! I went through the list again and managed to cut it to 16. Appreciation, contribution, curiosity, credibility, education, family, honesty, organisation, friendliness, happiness, learning, motivation, perseverance, respect, security/stability, willingness.
Okay getting there!!
Now to cut it to 5.....this was tricky.....there were 3 that I just knew were going to be there...family, security/stability and organisation. I really value security and stability (much to Nigel's dismay - he would love me to take a risk- but nope it isn't me). So whilst I would love to drop this one for something 'sexier', it just has to stay in my top 5. So I only have 2 spots left and 13 values to choose from.
There was another one I really wanted but I had trouble labelling it. It's the reason I've included willingness in my 16 values, but it isn't quite the right word. It is important to me that we give things a go. It doesn't matter to me if you can't do something, as long as you at least try. I'm thinking in particular of Hunter and his school work. He has just started and is finding some of it so hard - I can't do it he says (in particular to reading new words). My response is, I don't expect you to be able to do it (that doesn't mean I don't think you can do it!), I expect you to try. In the end I've settled on the phrase 'give it a go', for this one (listed as try in my word cloud above).
Now to the last spot. I think this was the hardest of all....I wanted to put at least 4, respect, honesty, appreciation and happiness. I've gone with happiness, because at the end of the day, I just want to be happy! I'm not 100% happy with it (haha love it), but given values don't have to be permanent, I'm going with it!
And to rank them:
Family- my family really are my reason for living. It's important to me that we look out for our family, and stand up for them. My family is what pulls me out of a funk, just listening to a child giggle or seeing them play together is enough to bring a smile to my face.
Security - security is important to me, and therefore my job, which provides security, is important to me. I don't have huge ambitions, I just want to be able to pay the bills comfortably. I like to know what to expect, hence my need for stability/routine.
Organisation - I like to be organised. It's important to me to know things are organised. This fits in with my need for routine/stability, I'm not a spur of the moment person, but plan, plan, plan.
Give it a go - this one I mentioned above. It's important that everyone in my family gives things a go, at least try's. I don't mind if you don't succeed, as long as you try your best!
Happiness - at the end of the day I just want myself and my family to be happy. For me this includes some "me" time, either scrapbooking, reading or getting a massaage, but it also includes spending time with friends and family.