Saturday 3 March 2012

Life challenge - week 9 - go easier on yourself



WOW we are up to week 9 already, and Deb is asking us to go easier on yourself. I can do this. I've found after going through the previous challenges I've been happier this week. I'm reminding myself of all the good things in my life.

I've been putting a lot of pressure on myself lately to lose weight. I joined 2 separate weight loss groups on FB, along with the 1 million kilo challenge.  Then I beat myself up when I get a bit slack and don't exercise as much as I SHOULD or eat more chocolate than I SHOULD.  But truth be known, I'm not even overweight. Sure I'm not as thin as my sister but mMy BMI and it's 23.3 - completely healthy.  My weight basically fluctuates up and down a kilo.  I wanted to lose 3kg to get to where I wanted to be - which would put my BMI at 22.3 (not wanting to share my weight with the world!) but I've decided this week that, you know what - I'm happy where I am. I can maintain this weight well and I can have some treats!  I'm healthy and happy.

I've been working on myself abit. I have walked up the stairs at work (all 232 of them) every work day last week ( and twice one day) - and walked plenty of times between the floors.  I wore a new dress last week and got 3 compliments at work!!  That made me feel awesome!  I've been trying to wear lipstick everyday thanks to Louisa from Louisa Caire and have started playing around with different hairstyles, and I've even had comments about that too! It's great to have some time to look at myself and not just rush out the door.  So I'm not beating myself up anymore about losing those last 3kg!  I'm accpeting who I am and am going to try and make the most of what I've got!

I'm also going to stop beating myself up or getting grumpy over things that can't be changed. I tend to dwell on things for ages wishing I had done something a different way, or "if only" statements. If only I didn't eat that ice cream with the kids, if only I got in the other lane at the check-out, if only, if only, if only. And I have a habit of getting grumpy at hubby for doing something the "wrong" way (read not the way I would have done it). This can stop too. What's done is done, so I'm going to learn to deal with it and move on!

The next thing I'm going to do is think positively of myself.  My self-confidence is a bit lacking -but it need not be!  I'm good at my job!  I'm a good, (at times fun) Mum, I'm a good wife (not as good as those that make their husbands lunch but hey he is a grown man!), I'm a good friend. I'm not perfect but I'm good enough!



My mantra is this quote from Audry Hepburn!  I just love it!!

20 comments:

  1. GOOD ON YOU. I don't think it's all about weight. I think it's about acknowleding the size you are, dressing acordingly and like you've done, taken some time to make yourself feel nice. If you feel good, people notice!

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    1. Thanks Mandy! Another couple of compliments today - a few on the flower I wore in my hair (even the girls at childcare commented on it) and one colleague said something is different about you - we worked out it was my hair!

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  2. Holy moly that's a lot of stairs! It's a recurring theme, women not feeling "good enough" or like they are not doing enough. It makes me sad. How did we get like this? What happened to Girl Power, I am Woman, Hear me Roar? Who Run The World?!!? I love that Deb's challenge is giving us all so much insight, confidence and self-love.

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    1. I know hey! I was chatting to a girl at work today who was beating herself up over buying a hot choc each day - I told her to accept she likes it and just do it!

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  3. Bec what a lovely empowering post!!! You are fantastic!!!! Thanks for lifting my spirits and stamping home that we are good enough!! I love how you are thinking and congratulations on the new dress and all the compliments!!!! :)

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    1. Thanks Paula - -I'm glad I lifted your spirits!

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  4. great post Bec, its wonderful to be happy where you are right now, with happiness, so much more comes along, good on you!

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  5. I've seen that Audrey Hepburn quote before and LOVE it !!! And yes, a 23.3 BMI is COMPLETELY healthy !

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    1. Yeah I love that one too Grace. I'm possible!

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  6. You rock - i love everything about this post and hope you can keep finding ways to love yourself and feel positive about all you do and are!

    deb @ home life simplified

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    1. Thanks Deb! The challenge is certainly being great for me! I'm glad you started it!

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  7. very positive and powerful post! I have a hubby who does things the opposite way to me too!! I'm working on letting it go and focussing on the fact that it is done :p

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    1. Thanks Casojaha! It's hard isn't it - hubby sent my son to school today with 2 packs of chips and a pack of scooby snacks - way to go on the processed food - but hey - he made his lunch!

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  8. Great to receive a compliment isn't it! You really do have to make the most of what you have dont you! And all husbands should make their own lunch!

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    1. Thanks Annaleis - I think hubby goes without lunch lots of days - but he has every chance to make it the night before.

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  9. I know exactly where you are coming from. I myself have been trying desperately hard this year to get to my goal weight (all 4.1kg less than I started the year!). I am half way to my goal weight and I'm happy with that but I need to let go of the terrible way I think and talk about my body still. That is what my post is on this week! It's so good that you can say that you are happy with where you are.

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    1. Thanks Clancy! I'm going to pop over and read your post.

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  10. I like you am in a healthy BMI range, but am working through the 12wbt program, for my mental as much as physical health. There is so much more to health and fitness that comes from your mindset, and slowly, slowly, I'm starting to feel like I can do just about anything!! Keep on going the way you are and soon nothing will stop you. x

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  11. Can totally relate to the weight thing and the thin a your sister thing. We are never happy with ourselves and that is one of my challenges - to be happy in my own skin. I hope you have continued to be happy with where you are at. xx

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